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UNimaginable

UNimaginable

Dedication or what?!

As much as a 90 yr old woman she needs to be praised, and for working 70 yrs in the same profession that is what I call dedication. Now I am in admiration for this for sure and don’t get me wrong I think she’s amazing yet some of me thinks how sad to not have tried something else.
But what do I know, she may have nursed all around the world that would include variety into her work, she may have been in all departments of the hospital, that would include variety also…
I am 52 and have never lived more than 9 years in one house so to me 70 years in one job seems wow mind blowing stuff..
Perhaps she did not want to change, perhaps she could not change, and doing a quick maths she must have started nursing possibly just after WW2

Did she want to change?  Could she change career?

I am sure that during her childbearing years she may have wanted to but there was not another way for her to change, as there is for you today…

So what has changed? How can you transform your life?

The internet……..;

My father’s job not so long ago was to set up computers and all the systems in the banking world – he worked for the Bank of America. I recall the conversations on the phone he would have as just ‘Dad talks’ “Yes did you put the X with the J?” type calls and we the kids would all laugh – but now I ain’t laughing! This computer stuff is real good and is allowing me to be an independent woman during a time of strife and grief that is divorce.

It is enabling me to stay at home and make sure my children get to keep their mother at home like ‘normal’ even though the rest is crumbling down. Especially as there was violence involved! I can’t begin to imagine what they are going through and it has been 2 years almost since the separation and yes I have been through hell and back, yes I have risen out of the ashes like the phoenix, and yes I am learning to fly now!

A business systemised is a must!

So where, oh where may I find this? Well it all starts from… No I won’t keep you any longer, should you too want to become digitalised, learning new skillsets that make you shine in this new economy, that give you the possibility to start a business with no business skills, no internet knowledge, with no products – the bees knees – see the digital economy?!!beeseys see the digital economy?

 

 

 

 

 

So this is an automated business model that you just plug into.

Do try the free trial of 30 days – using the same back office as i do every single day.

Do not get into danger zones and transfer your skills to the new economy – the digital economy leaving the traditional 9-5 economy behind afterwards!

There is training to make it all comprehensible, enjoyable, and exciting! Life is going to happen any way so why not chose it your way? Find out how you can change by going to this link here and getting straight into the thick of it.

Once your name is securely noted in my special notebook, you shall receive some complimentary videos explaining the training to you so you can start module 1 asap 🙂 is that good or what?!!

Can’t wait for you to get on my special notebook, so click here and you too do something unimaginable!

Corporate Lows

Corporate Lows

Yesterday was a downer day for me…

Do you get those really down nasty days? Well I went down that rabbit hole and because it was also my birthday I was so down that even the kids let me down!!! There’s a terrific photo of me on snapchat viewed from behind looking very fat and unflattering but thank goodness tis only up 24hrs!! That was the start of the day

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I then went further down and down… There was some part of me (the sadic me) that enjoyed this route.. But I wish that no one takes the journey – save the sadic me!!

And so what to do?

Well there was only one thing I could do – mindset work… This person came up talking of something that my meditation master had talked about previously – so the Universe was talking and I got the message!

Paradigms

One of the exercises was on forgiveness and although I have done lots of these, today I felt compelled to do this one, if only to kick my new old habit of ebing sadic with myself! Me zero, sadic 1.

The experience.

The name of the game is to write the name and some information about how you feel and then tear it up.

The results.

Later on that night, remember it was my birthday, I got a call from my brother and his family. I had not heard from them since I had left my husband whereas my bro had actually been in contact with my ex and even worked with my brother on a site in England!  I was finding it difficult to forgive my bro, but with this call I felt humbly grateful and so the sadic me got a kick in the teeth!! Me 1 sadic zero!

The second kick in the teeth was a fellow colleague telling me to embrace this sadic me and love her, so as to let her be free. This is exactly what happened too so me 2 sadic me 0!!

Conclusion.

Should you too want to experience this time freedom to be able to sort your own demons as you see fit…

Should you want cool colleagues to really help you and push you into the depth of a situation?

Should you want to do the same… (click here 😉 )

My why is to bring joy and honour to you, so that you may shine and know you are worthy of peace.

Having gone from a violent relationship (27 years) to single Mum with 4 children, I worked hard. The mind is everything and without a good mindset you can do nothing of value.

I now run my own business, have my own workshops, create my own products and live the life I make for myself. It really all took shape when I met Jay and Stuart. Twas a blessing that I would wish on every single person who is in any violence.

The B word… Now I can use it

The B word… Now I can use it

Written 8th September 2014 – I was still driving 200km a day to get the kids to their new school whilst I searched for a place live! How brave 😉

to all women with the B word…Some traded out some have not…

 

CatPayen. Founder. delightfullydivorced.com

Cat Payen. Founder at  delightfullydivorced.com

I am dedicated to bring you value, techniques, tools and mentor you to have a delightfully divorced life. Divorce is final, and even though my own story is probably different to yours we as mothers first and foremost have to bounce back. I suffered domestic abuse, and although it takes two to tango, I fell really low and deep. But you can see videos about that for now I am out and about applying these and I have found the way to freedom - for me. I am a digital strategist extraordinaire, quite visionary really and this gives me vomph to my step, bounces me out of bed so as to serve you all better. I love my digital life style and would love for you to experience the community, camaraderie, and cutting edge marketing techniques. The one thing I found very helpful about the community is that it allows me to be me, in all my authenticity and dynamic, where at the worst of my life, here I could just be. No pretence not a mask to put on just be. The fact that we help each other means that there were always times I felt good about myself too. So apart from all these tools that I have gained in the process of getting myself aware of the situation I was in - domestic violence - was probably the single most important factor. But you too have got there if you are reading this, so now lets move you forwards and onwards.  Look, I would love for you to meet my mentors, or perhaps you would prefer an explanation of the system via a webinar? Just hit the links or skype me.

My Top 10 Do’s for Getting On The Road To Recovery Faster, Fastest :D

My Top 10 Do’s for Getting On The Road To Recovery Faster, Fastest :D

My Top 10 Do’s for Getting On The Road To Recovery Faster, Fastest 😀

Odds are that you are wondering how long it will take to recover from your divorce and what you can do from the position you are in NOW.

Well I have news for you 😉 here is a list of 10 things you can put into practice i.e. DO (action items) to get on the road to recovery faster.   We all know that the quickest way to recovery is to be in action mode too 😉

  1. You must be willing to ask for help, that can be tough for some people but wait this is even better – you must be willing to accept help given!! This will help you to get on the road to recovery faster;
  2. Talk about your grief with others, up to a point though (link article Sablonceau) – care here but it shall help you to get on the road to recovery faster;
  3. Information – get as much of it as possible, on the divorce process, on the emotional pulls, on the children search online (and on my site 😉 definately knowledge is a sure way in helping you to get on the road to recovery faster;
  4. Obstacles will rise, they do in real life too (?real life?!!) and here you just face them one at a time and as they arise. You are in no fit state to be a hero – you are already a heroine just by living through this & this will help you to get on the road to recovery faster;
  5. Let others know that you are not holding it together constantly, that you are off track when it the situation is too much for you re #1 will help you to get on the road to recovery faster;
  6. Very important to live out your feelings and enable them to surface, be acted out and leave you! Eventually they will and this is for sure a winner on the road to recovery faster;
  7. Accept what is, embrace it even and let it tell you things, listening to it will help you to get on the road to recovery faster;
    Whether it is your feelings, your finances, your relationship with the children, friends, parents, whatever allow yourself this emotion, and it’s repercussions on you.
  8. Ah this new reality, be grateful for it, accept that too and move on (this does not mean you have to like it!) but acceptance will help you to get on the road to recovery faster;
  9. Trust the universe that things will work out – have faith that will help you to get on the road to recovery faster;
  10. Mistakes love them and learn from them. No one is perfect and every single human being makes mistakes, but not every single being learns from them! So be one that does and this will help you to get on the road to recovery faster.

My why is to bring joy and honour to you, so that you may shine and know you are worthy of peace.

Having gone from a violent relationship (27 years) to single Mum with 4 children, I worked hard. The mind is everything and without a good mindset you can do nothing of value.

I now run my own business, have my own workshops, create my own products and live the life I make for myself. It really all took shape when I met Jay and Stuart. Twas a blessing that I would wish on every single person who is in any violence.

Ophra and Failure

Ophra and Failure

Failure

it is not an option we often hear in the entrepreneurial world. But if you know that you learn from every mistake, then there is no failure…

You only fail if you quit, give in to ego.

Divorce then is failure by strict definition.

So as I ponder on this it means that I pass judgement on people who divorce. And yes I probably still do – differently but still… I make excuses for my failure by saying ‘Yes, my divorce is different, he was violent and I went down screaming and kicking so I was violent too. We had to go our separate ways for the good of the children!’ There my conscience is quietened?

No, not really for looking back on it you always feel that it was not so hard, it was not so difficult, it was not so…

So I’ll stop you there thank you.

  • I’ll take the fail because it was that hard,
  • it was that difficult and I was hiding in my child’s room to be safe,
  • it was that difficult that i would hide anywhere and be out of site for as long as possible, I would not be me,
  • it was that difficult because I had no friends – thank god for the mobile phones and that my Parisien and my friends in England could be called occasionally,
  • it was that difficult for I could not sing and be happy in my own house, and it was so darn difficult because it was always my fault and I deserved this!

So yes that was my choice and yes that was my life. So one day when you wake up become

AWARE

then your life changes, something in you breaks and that is perhaps due to the failure that you have just witnessed in the present -now.

So listen to Ophra and give me your views on that please 😉

 

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