Single Parents And Homework.
Single Parents And Homework – I live in a country where it is illegal to give homework to children under 11 years old (France, December 1956 decree….) and so they just get poems to learn and 15 mins of written work is permitted.
Single Parents And Homework
Single parents and homework, after 11 years old in le collèges, is an absolute nightmare! As it is now legal to give homework they just get inundated with it, the children have no clue as to how to manage their time – having been footloose and fancy free all this time it is just not part of their world. As a single parent, homework becomes truly horrendous.
Being a single parent and the kids homework has not really changed for the kids or me. I don’t know about you but I have no recollection of being the perfect family, well perhaps before it was easier for the children had 20m2 (24 yard2) rooms each and the kitchen was 40 m2 (48 yards2) where we could all sit and have homework time just before I started cooking the meal, but it was always their work and their responsibility.
Now as a single parent let’s view Homework…
As a single parent, I have a tiny house and their 2 old bedrooms fits in my house!! A little exaggeration but only just 😉 So yes at least the school is a lot better and adapted to their intellectual capacities. And the collège (11-15years old) it is a pilot for the rest of the country 🙂
There are no classes per se, each child is in a subject (geography, maths, french…) depending on the child’s competency within that subject. So a child may be in the last year of maths say and first year of Spanish…
This has done wonders for my little one who was often noted in the village (not intellectually adapted to us at all…) with say 7/20 and such marks, which we would not understand for she is ‘brilliant’.
So with this system if for example the child has learnt their geography lesson but not well written the reply they will get red in the section for written work but get green in the understanding of the question, using the right verbs to describe the feature etc This means that the homework for me the single parent is much easier to deal with – in terms of productivity, just try and sit a child down and talk of ‘see here you got some red, it just means you need to practice X’ Let’s do some exercises on just X for now alright? big smile 😀
Single Parents And Homework has it’s downsides though…
- Endless differences depending on the child (and their age) – there is never a right time: should they do it right after school; wait after ‘goûter’; wait after a down time??? As they get to 15+ then it’s all out all the time, or so we think… (See point #3 below)
- You can’t win – gone are the days when you knew how to get the colour green by mixing blue and yes yellow… Then there’s the ‘I can do this alone’ as they cut through things… Ah and the ‘Just sit down next to me and concentrate, please Mum’ ‘No you can’t do any of your own work, no reading as you don’t pay attention!’
- Internet – Then they get very much older: and the internet is not just for searching … I’m just watching this YouTube for my Spanish….. How do you deal with that???
- The 9pm superstore run with no car is no fun, right? Or the 9pm phone call to the other parents… The buying of paper again for the other pack has just disappeared – reappears when you rush back from the store to find your child almost finished the homework ‘Oh Carley rang, got the assignment and the paper was under the bed!’
- They forget their homework, initially you rush to get it somehow, then there are books and lots of images to get, finally you just say – too bad honey! It helps them understand when you forget things that life happens, and so they will get a bad mark for not having the homework done but that is also life and possibly it will teach them to remember things, or to note them down in their “agendas” and it may even teach them to enjoy getting good marks and praise from their peers and teachers!!
- I never personally felt stupid if I did not know something and I would tell them so ‘Ah I don’t know the answer to that, sorry’ but between you and I I don’t have to know the answer – I am not Google!